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|infiniteplaylist37||Posted - 31 August 2011 23:46
So I'm a modern orthodox girl who's 15 and shomer negiah. The people in my community are sort of half-and-half (shomer and not shomer). My parents were never educated in the halachot of shomer negiah, so they never taught me about it and I only recently found out about it and found it very difficult to accept. However, I've concluded that it's a beautiful thing and that although I know it'll be very difficult, I'm going to try my best to be shomer negiah.
For me, this means no hugging, kissing, hand-holding, and I'm not going to initiate any hi-fives, or slap a guy on the back, etc. However, depending on how I'm feeling, if a guy holds up his hand for a hi-five, not realizing that I'm shomer, I'll return it, and later talk to him if it will embarrass him for me to turn him down.I'll sit next to a guy in a car, etc. - I don't have any problem with that.
I'm currently doing a summer program that includes all different types of jews (guys and girls) and a few aren't orthodox.
|taon||Posted - 09 September 2011 3:16
And what happens if someone wants to go slightly further, even just a date? Or if someone offers you some of their nonkosher lunch? Where can you draw the line? We are generally forbidden to violate Halacha out of fear of embarrassing people. because if something's wrong to do, it's wrong period. And anyway, it seems most people dont feel embarrassed when you explain these things, except for maybe sometimes a second of embarrassment not to have realized. And if you'd prefer, make sure to have your hands full or be holding a supposedly used tissue or soemthing
|soulrebel||Posted - 15 September 2011 23:35
If someone I wasn't close to didn't end up giving me a goodbye hug, I wouldn't notice. Why would he specifically notice? It doesn't sound like he's going to run around chasing you for a hug. Just keep your hands full.
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