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evryrosethorns Posted - 24 December 2010 0:04
Ever since I moved schools a girl in my class is constantly trying to insult me and I cant handle it anymore, theres only so much that could slide off, its been so long and you'd think she'd learn that she hurting peoples feelings. And in 9th grade I told her when she speaks that way to me it realty hurts, and when I reminded her she was like "I dunno know what your talking about?" its like she cant go through her day without insulting someone and shes waiting for me to crack. And if she doesn't want me there, well she has to deal with it if your in 11th grade you should be able to put your feelings aside sometimes and bear it. what should I do? I really cant handle it anymore!
taon Posted - 29 December 2010 23:54
Maybe she really doesn't relaize. SOme people just think in certain ways and they just dont get that what they do is hurting anyone. You could try asking why she says X when she says it. Or think of/say non-insulting responses that don't have to make sense, just make you feel better. She may honestly be clueless that what she is doing is insulting.


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<3rochela Posted - 29 December 2010 23:54
u gotta realize that this kid has issues. u should feel bad for her! there needs to b a reason that shes treating u like this. shes most probably jeleous of u and has a low self-esteme herself. usually when someone feels that someone is better then them or wtvr, they put that person down to feel better abt themselves. it makes them feel more in control. but u need to show her that ur better then that. stand up for urself! if u tried talking to her then i guess next time she talks to u like that give her a good comeback. its going to b hard and its going to take courage but u cant let ppl treat u that way. take a stand for urself- ur worth it.
good luck!
iluvmyfrnds Posted - 29 December 2010 23:54
i do this sometimes.
thanks for making me understand it from the other side
jewishgirl1 Posted - 29 December 2010 23:54
Most likely she is hurting inside and she vents it out on others. Or she wishes she was you, or sees something in you that she wishes she was.

Go out of your way to be extra nice to her. Buy her a gift. Give her compliments. You may even end up being friends!

josh1 Posted - 17 January 2011 23:43
Tell her one more time that you are quite sick of her insults and if she cant stop you will have to ask the teacher to ask her to stop. Make it clear that its really old and you are really fed up with it. I really hope that it works. Pls update us with good news soon!
evryrosethorns Posted - 20 May 2011 0:13
Sorry I totally forgot about this forum. You guys gave good advice.But I wouldn't want to give her an insult back she'd just act more bitter towards me. So I decided that whenever she said something that seriously bothered me I would just act that she didnt say it-just ignore the bad-pretend she didnt say it. and whenever she was nice or she said something funny or if she was wearing something pretty I would try to compliment her.(fight fire with water not fire) When you give to people they can't insult you with out looking bad. I dont know why Hashem gave me this nisayon that hurt me a lot through out the years but I guess in a way I grew from it even though it pained me a lot.

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