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freespirited1 Posted - 27 June 2010 22:02
I'm really confused. My mother died a little over a year ago, and the longer we are from my mother's death, the more lax my father gets about halachas. It used to be that he always criticized my halacha teachers, calling them "too strict" or simply crazy, but it's worse now because he acutally isn't following halacha anymore. Today, I actually saw him put chulent straight from the fridge onto the blech. And when I (very respectfully) said something to him, he thought about it and then said that something that's dry isn't a problem. Yes, there wasn't that much liqiod in it, but DRY? No, there was definitely liquid at the bottom of the bowl.

I just feel so lost, because I come from such a mixed household (my parents come from totally different ends of the religious spectrum, but somehow met up somewhere in the middle and were reasonably well-matched by the time they started having kids), I'm used to being a little confused about halacha. And I struggled with being religious at all for a long time when I was younger (from the age of about 5 until around 13). Now that I'm not only as frum as my family was but even a little more, I feel more and more confused because my father seems to be going the other way. Isn't this the same man that criticizes me for not davening every morning? Isn't this the same person who claims (though it isn't true) that I only wash on Shabbos mornings, and only because I wake up when it's time to wash for challah, so he's watching me and I wash for both then? How am I supposed to handle a parent who's going off the derech? At the very least, shouldn't he stay strong for his baalas teshuvah daughter? He doesn't like to talk to Rabbis, and he doesn't listen to ANYONE, so where am I supposed to go? What am I supposed to do? I'm so confused.

josh1 Posted - 24 August 2010 0:26
You need to have a techer or a rabbi or someone to talk to about these things. Is there any rabbi/teacher that you feel you can approach with your questions?

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