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deepwater Posted - 27 April 2010 1:42
Ok, so I was if any of you can help me with this problem, which has literally killed me... Thinking too much. Thoughts, all kinds, haunting you at every moment, cycles and cycles, layers and layers... they torture me and torment me, causing me untold suffering, and untold problems. I cant know ANYTHING for a fact, cuz for every thought I'll have ten different ones screaming, arguing, demanding etc... I cant want a/t, I cant do a/t, I cant even think a/t... b/c it might not be true, it might not be real... k, I know I'm rambling, but thats my brain, forever running, and running, without ever, ever giving me peace... I have no idea what peace of mind even means... S/t's I wish I can just chop off my head and throw it away, cuz then I wont have this prob... (and for some other reasons...) And then I feel all guilty thinking like this abt this amazing brain that Hashem gave me that ppl were so jealous of, and that can accomplish so much... Yea right! The only thing my brain is accomplishing is to slowly but surely put me to rest... Whatever... Anyhow, if any of you guys have any advice or a/t... please respond, for I'm in such an abyss, with little hope of ever coming out, things only getting worse... and this is like my last resort....
Thanx...
Neshomele Posted - 12 May 2010 15:37
Wow... sounds familiar. I also have this kinda prob... i wouldnt sleep for nights cuz my head wud just not shut up. i think and think and think and think more.
u know what i found to be helpful? writing down what i think. like... i try not to get lost in my own head... i try to focus on something think about it- but stay on that topic...
and write it down. makes things clearer.
hope i could help...

God - grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot chage, the courage to change the things i can - and the wisdom to know the difference

TeenYearsRStupid Posted - 12 May 2010 15:37
Do you have sleeping problems?
hocking613 Posted - 31 May 2010 22:39
lie down on your bed. tense up your right arm as tight as it will go. then, relax it all the way. do that to every part of your body, one by one. after that, do it to your entire body together - and let it go slowly.

then, imagine you are in your favorite place, a place where you can feel relaxed. mine is the beach. imagine it in its every minute detail, and why it relaxes you. for example tell urself "the waves are blueish green, topped with white foam. cool colors, no heat, no fire, relax..." keep doing this. over and over. it usually stops the thoughts and sometimes puts you to sleep! ;)

OR

i do this when i'm thinking too much at night and it's like four in the morning and i haven't fallen asleep yet even though i was in bed by twelve kinda thing.

put into categories everything you're thinking of. one word categories are the best. for instance, i'm thinking about who i dated today and if i should continue or not, why the shadchan was nasty, how much money i owe in tuition, rent, and loans, and why my mother ignored me today. so categories: shidduchim, money, and parents. then, imagine whatever container you want. for example, when i was moving, moving boxes where in my mind, so i thought of those. or when money is tight, it's bank security boxes with a lock. whatever you want. then, pack the categories (this is easiest if you imagine the categories as words) separately, each into its own box. next, wrap the boxes in whichever wrapping you like, crepe paper, brown paper, birthday party wrapping, whatever you're in the mood of. then attach a note to each package that says,

'Dear Hashem,
This is my life. And i can't manage it! And i certainly can't think of it right now, cuz it's keeping me up. So i'm sending it to You temporarily. Give me back all the things that are in my power - tomorrow. Thank You and i love You.

Your loving daughter/son,
*********


I hope these techniques help a bit. hatzlacha rabba!!

my chelek is my chelek; your chelek is your chelek; no one can take away anyone else's chelek. ezehu ashir hasameach bechelko.

taon Posted - 08 June 2010 21:27
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green Posted - 15 June 2010 15:12
Hocking-
I absolutely love that. Thank you!
aquabubble97 Posted - 21 June 2010 15:35
k so buy two different pocket notebooks and carry them around with u. 1 shud be for good thoughs and 1 shud be 4 bad thoughts. any time u have a thought thats eather bad or good, write it down (no, not at home later that day, that second) keep a new page for every thought so u cud always add different ideas to them. read through all ur good thoughts often, and wen u read ur bad thoughts, write on the bottem a way to fix that certian prob. ur life is sooooo precius, dont let this dicurage u. keep strong! u can do it!
deepwater Posted - 27 June 2010 22:02
k, don't have koach to write much now, but thank u all so much fro answering. really.
hocking613, your ideas sound interesting, do they really help? maybe I'll try some tonight. just one question. what you wrote about thinking of your favorite place where you can feel relaxed, k, so I think of the beach (which is my favorite too), but then i start thinking about everything that ever happened when i was by a beach, and that takes me to more thoughts, and more thoughts... so how do you keep it from running???
help!! Posted - 27 June 2010 22:02
yeah i totally get wat u mean!!i have that all the time lately my mind is running faster than my feet can carry me!!!i sometimes whish theres a plug u could pull to just make ur head stop working,n ur brain stop thinking for even just a second!!!wish i could cut the pwr-like a black out or something!!!!
i always write wen im bothered by s/t-thats my way of expressing myself but lately my mind running faster than my hands can write!!i gave up on that!!ne other solutions?my happy place doesnt work for me either nemore!!!
hope789 Posted - 04 August 2010 14:48
i have the same prob...wish i had an asnwer
emoticon Posted - 24 August 2010 0:26
hocking-
your technique about the ocean is actually mentioned by Chazal. (They also suggest thinking about techias hameisim as a way to fall asleep, but the ocean is slightly more... comfortable, y'know?)
ggirl Posted - 25 May 2011 1:50
hey deepwater- i think i get u but i dont know u or how u feel so i cant be sure. but MY thoughts have been so harsh and so terrible, they drive me crazy and made me do crazy things. i even cut myself from going so out of my mind. my close friend who ive told doesnt understand-she sed i should just calm down and not get so angry. i still have this problem so if youve found a solution by now, let me know
depressed4eva Posted - 02 June 2011 2:27
That is seriously the story of the past year. My anxiety builds up over something; at times something dramatic, and at other times something so petty. Anyway, then my mind goes on a tangent and I begin to question myself about everything, such as my abilities, myself, who I am, and everything that COULD go wrong. (wheter I am going to sleepwalk into manhattan and get raped, or if I am going to die in my sleep.) and the box thing is amazing, but it doesn't always work because yea- you can predict that you will drown by the beach. I mean seriously, I can't handle my anxiety, my psychologist gives so many suggestions but sometimes they just don't work, I mean I was told to tap into the scenses instead of cutting but sometimes you just can't logically think!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHH... sorry I just had to let it out.
Any tips???????

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