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help meee Posted - 16 November 2009 22:32
my friends are very different then me they all have boy friends and all that stuff. Sometimes i wonder why i am here ? what the world would be like with out me? i don't know what to do anymore
taon Posted - 25 November 2009 22:40
There is nothing in the world that is not absolutely essential and that includes you. Lots of people have these feelings, look around here. Maybe you need an environment where this wont be such an issue. Meanwhile, we are all friends here.
JewishAndProud! Posted - 29 November 2009 16:05
HASHEM created you-because He loves you...you have something to contribute! Without you, the world would missing the peice of the puzzle. You make all the difference.
Maybe you just feel really uncomfortable with your surroundings? A little out of place with these friends?
Try to expand your horizons...and make friends who are like you-then you will feel much better!

The user name says it all...

josh1 Posted - 29 November 2009 16:05
Just because you dont have a boyfriend? One day you will find someone that you are supposed to be with. We often concentrate n the short term picture instead of long term. Im guessing that long term you will be happy that you dont have one now, while your friends may regret it. Usually relationships at young ages dont work out for long term. While they in a few years may have ruined relationships behind them, you will not.
Jacobeli Posted - 04 January 2010 23:25
ok..what connection is there between not gaving a boy friend and being diff and not beiong here anymore..
I dont have a girl friend and in many ways different aswell..isnt everyone differt?
Isnt that the way it is supposed to be..imagine if everyone were the same..wouldnt that be so boring? It is good what you are doing, it is noty ness good they have boy friends...if you are doing the right thing dont worry keep on doing it! i dont know you ior the situation but if you have noone you can relate to maybe think about switching schools to (it sounds like ) a more religios school where the girs wont have boy friends and will posibly br more liek you...Do whats right no matter what! dont worry about what other do,,!

I hope I was helpful!
All the best!

BenIshAi Posted - 04 February 2010 1:13
help meee:
I have frequently grappled with your very question. The asking that question was also usually promtped upon my realization that many of my friends had friends of the opposite gender.
B"H, I have overcome this question [for now, at least]. I once heard an amazing shiur from Rav Ephraim Wachsman Shlita which really answered this question. He says in the name of several pirushim, based on the pirkei avos "kol israel yesh lahem chelek laolam habah"--"every Jew has a portion in the World to Come." He says that each and every individual has the potential to become not only the gadol hador, but the gadol hadoros! You and I can become greater than Moshe Rabbeinu on our own level. If that were not so, why would we have been created?
This may sound cliché, but to me it is actually quite inspirational.
Therefore, help meee, don't waste your time wondering if you are necessary on this planet. You could be mashiach, or his mother or wife! Your community, your nation, the world--needs you! But most importantly, you need yourself. You need to be able to rest your head on your pillow at night knowing that you are worth living, because you helped that sick person shovel the walk, or because you davened with intense emotion, or because you had an amazing grasp of a complicated sugya.
Don't give up on yourself; Hashem won't.

Jews aren't for sale; we shouldn't wear labels--a yid iz a yid.

help meee Posted - 04 February 2010 1:13
thanks for your advice . you are right i should just be who i am and not change me.
<3rochela Posted - 10 December 2010 0:18
ps- dont give into peer pressure abt the whole bf thing. rise above and ur friends will respect u for it. its not worth it to give in- trust me
<3rochela Posted - 10 December 2010 0:18
nobody knows why theyre here or what their mission here is. but the fact that u r here right now, the fact that gd woke u up this morning, the fact that u r existing right now shows that gd DOES have a mission for u! u do have something important to accomplish on this world b4 u leave it at 120. i learned one time that its like a puzzle. everyone has their puzzle piece to put into it. moshe rabbainu put in his, king dovid... ect. u have one to. and without ur puzzle piece, the puzzle will be incomplete. we need ur piece!!
6721 Posted - 17 January 2011 23:43
lets put it this way

BE the change u want to c in others

dojoyo Posted - 17 July 2011 3:13
1st of all why on earth do u think ur friends are better than you because they have boyfriends? that is really bad thinking- it's not a good thing to have boyfriends, you should be proud that you don't- not ashamed of it. if u wanna know more about shomer negiah and stuff- i posted on platonic relationships and watvr else.
#2 every single person in this world has something to contribute. that's why if u push someone aside and don't pay attention to them- you're missing what you can learn from them. i'm sure you've had situations where you've learned something really true from like a kid or someone who u wld never expect that. You can also learn what NOT to do from some people. but i'm sure you have a lot to offer so ur letting other people miss out on what you have to offer which is really sad :(

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