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|Rivkie||Posted - 13 October 2009 15:39
I feel that my family on a whole speaks too much Loshon Hara, and I fear that might be having an effect on our financial situation and stuff. How do I go about telling my parents and siblings that they constantly speak Loshon Hara without them getting defensive and without being Chutzpah-dik?
Life is based on trust in others and faith in H-shem.
|josh1||Posted - 21 October 2009 21:37
I have a good idea. Ask them if you (as a family) can start learning a halacha or 2 a day from the chafetz chaim book. Make it a family time thing or something.
|emoticon||Posted - 01 November 2009 17:48
hi! but after faith Hashem comes trust in Him, no? And trust in others without trust in Him is well...?
|jewishgirl1||Posted - 03 December 2009 15:03
There are certain general rule about giving rebuke:
1) It must be given privately - you must approach each of your parents and sibling individually
I think there's more - does anyone have anything to add?
|Rivkie||Posted - 13 December 2009 20:20
jewishgirl, thanks for the post but my problem is not how to do it. I know the halachos. My problem is that they'll deny it (which they do when I point it out) and they'll just tell me I'm being chutzpa-dik.
|josh1||Posted - 04 January 2010 23:25
You did your job. the only thing you have to try to do now is stay out of the conversations.
|shebi1||Posted - 24 December 2010 0:04
rivkie i was in the same situation as you some months ago, do you what did i do?
my sister started reading a halacha of lshon hara a day and my faily started to understand what lashon hara involves, what's more when tehy spoke lashoni only clogged ears or i leftthe place where we were( like having dinner or chatting in th bedroom)
i think that the best way, there is no point in reproaching, you have to be a model, an example for them and then slowly slowly they will recognise their sin alone.
and... be patient! it takes long time!
|bored613||Posted - 29 December 2010 23:54
what i often start doing is mentioning something funny that the shmiras halashson program at my school did to break out something, and my mom gets the hint and changes the conversation
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